What Is Disorganized Attachment
A disorganized attachment style in a child, also known as disoriented attachment, is formed when a child is emotionally and physically dependent on someone who is also a source of distress or fears1. Disorganized/disoriented attachment style is usually found in people who have experienced physical, emotional or sexual abuse from their primary caretakers in childhood.
What Is Attachment
Babies are born wired to seek connection and proximity to their primary caregivers for survival. This deeply rooted connection-seeking behavior allows a child to develop an attachment to their attachment figure.
Depending on the type of parenting, a child can form one of the following four types of attachment.
- Secure attachment style
- Avoidant attachment style
- Ambivalent attachment style (also known as anxious attachment style)
- Disorganized attachment style
These attachment styles represent how an infant learns to deal with stressful circumstances and negative emotions2.
The first three of these infant attachments are considered organized because they are adaptive to their corresponding environments. These attachment strategies are survival instincts that aim to maximize proximity to the attachment figures according to their different parenting styles.
Disorganized Attachment In Children
Attachment Theory asserts that when a child is frightened, they turn to an attached caretaker for security, comfort, and reassurance. However, if the caretaker is also the very source of threat, then the child has an insoluble problem. No consistent, organized strategies can relieve the fears and disorganized attachment issues develop.
Disorganized attachment is a form of insecure attachment. The child doesn’t view the parent as a secure base because they cannot get their emotional or physical needs met.
In the Strange Situation experiment developed by Mary Ainsworth, the behavior of a disorganized infant is inconsistent with the other attachment styles. The baby may display a variety of odd, unusual, contradictory, or conflicted behavior when the parent leaves and returns. These babies’ behaviors share a striking theme of disorganization, a marked contradiction in movement.
Disorganized infants show the following anomalous or disoriented behavior in the Strange Situation.
Contradictory behaviors – the baby shows substantial distress during the separation but displays indifference or conflicting reunion behavior upon the parent’s return.
Misdirected or interrupted behavior – the baby seeks proximity to the stranger instead of the parent after separation.
Stereotypical behavior – the baby is visually stressed or apprehended when the parent is present. The child may repeatedly pull their hair with a dazed expression.
Freezing – the baby is unable to choose between going toward or moving away from the parent. The child may go and stop several times. They show intense attachment behavior followed by sudden freezing or dazed action as signs of dissociation3.
Apprehension – the baby shows fear of the parent immediately upon the parent’s return after a brief separation.
Disorganized Attachment Examples
Disorganized babies exhibit inexplicable, odd, disoriented, or overtly conflicted behaviors toward their caregivers.
Here is an example of how a disorganized child reacts in the Strange Situation. The baby might cry loudly while trying to climb into her mother’s lap. While climbing, she might suddenly become silent and freeze for several seconds indicating a sign of dissociation.
In another example, a disorganized baby might crawl rapidly towards his father upon the parent’s return. But then the child would suddenly stop, turn his head, and gaze distantly at the wall with a trance-like, expressionless face, another sign of dissociation. After a short while, the baby might turn his head back, smile, and continue approaching his father again.
Causes of Disorganized Attachment in Children
Although various factors contribute to disorganized attachment, one consistent factor is a family environment and parent engagement.
The most common cause of disorganized attachment is having an abusive caretaker. Nearly 80% of maltreated infants have disorganized attachment issues4.
A disorganized child fears the caretaker and their unpredictable abusive behavior. But at the same time, they have to rely on that person for survival5. When the caretaker is both the source of fright and the only haven of safety known to the child, disorganized attachment often results.
These caretakers are usually hostile and self-centered. When the caretaker’s terror is present without resolution, the baby cannot use any organized strategy to deal with the stress.
A parent having a violent partner also impacts attachment formed in the child and results in disorganization.
Another common cause is having a parent struggling with depression, marital discord, the unresolved loss of an attachment figure, or other traumatic experiences in the past6.
These otherwise normal parents may display frightening behavior to their infant unintentionally due to past traumas or unresolved loss. They may involuntarily re-experience the fear involved in front of the baby, and frighten the child. These parents are sometimes fearful or withdrawn. Their unpredictable behaviors result in a disorganized attachment style formed in the child.
Recent research also finds that neurological impairment or pharmacological intervention is related to disorganization if the child has been left alone for an extended period of time.
Characteristics of Disorganized Attachment in Children
Disorganized kids have “fright without solution” with the following characteristics:
- Do not have an attentional and behavioral strategy for coping with stress7.
- Are more prone to stress in infancy8, and heightened adrenocortical levels in distressing situations9.
- Lack regulation skills and control of negative emotions4.
- Show oppositional, aggressive, disrupted and erratic behavior in childhood or adolescent10.
- Have low self-esteem and poor social skills.
- Are more likely to experience trauma-related disorders such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) symptoms in the school years and dissociative disorder in adolescence11,12.
Disorganized Attachment in Adults (Signs In Grownups and Parents)
When early disorganization is followed by traumas inflicted by the caregivers during childhood and adolescence, the new traumatic interactions renew and confirm the internal working models of children themselves and the abusive caregiver, resulting in unresolved or disorganized attachment in adults. These people tend to have unresolved responses to their childhood trauma.
Adults with disorganized attachment can be identified through the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI). Disorganized adult shows marked lapses and incoherence in reasoning when they discuss their life experiences with loss or child maltreatment.
Young children of these adults also tend to have infant disorganization attachment. Therefore, disorganized attachment relationship tends to be intergenerational13.
Signs of Disorganized Attachment in Adults
Adults with a disorganized style have fearful-avoidant attachment. They often have poor coping skills to deal with stress14. They tend to have emotional regulation difficulties. Some are more angry and violent and have issues connecting with others15.
Disorganized adults usually struggle with romantic relationships. They yearn for close relationships and yet have an intense fear of rejection by their romantic partner. This excess fear of abandonment usually results in short and unstable adult relationship patterns. These adults struggle to form healthy relationships that last.
These adults have contradictory mental states and behavior. Severe attachment disorganization is associated with a personality disorder such as Borderline Personality Disorder16.
Dissociative Identity Disorder, a severe condition of disconnecting from reality and going into a trance-like state, is also found to be correlated with early disorganized attachment17.
Signs of Disorganized Attachment in Parents
The display of anomalous forms of frightened, frightening, or dissociative symptoms is one of the signs of disorganized attachment in parents.
For example, a hostile parent may suddenly crawl silently and catlike towards her infant simulating “mauling” behavior in an obviously non-playful way. A frightened parent may communicate apprehension to the child when the infant approaches them for protection.
How to heal Disorganized Attachment
Child Disorganized Attachment Treatment
Early disorganization does not automatically condemn a person to later disorganized attachment in their adult life.
Corrective attachment experiences and protective factors can prevent a once disorganized infant from developing mental disorders down the line. For example, other attachment figures may provide the child with positive attachment security to develop a healthy attachment.
To reestablish a safe, secure attachment system, it’s possible that the primary caregiver can become gradually capable of elaborating traumatic memories, therefore offering a progressively more positive attachment experience to the child.
Adult Disorganized Attachment Treatment
How to fix disorganized attachment?
It is possible for disorganized adults to feel safe and develop close, intimate relationships.
When an individual overcomes malevolent childhood experiences, their infant insecure attachment changes over time to become an earned-secure attachment. This person has broken the intergenerational cycle of disorganized attachment18.
Earned-secure attachment is possible when there is an alternative support figure19. Because it’s hard for disorganized adults to socialize and develop trust with others, it may be difficult for them to seek emotional support in their social circle.
To help these individuals, encourage them to get help from professionals. Therapy can help them make sense of past traumas and develop a healthier coping mechanism. Find a therapist who works with a relational approach20.
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