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Disorganized Attachment: Understanding How It Forms & How To Heal

What Is Disorganized Attachment

A disorganized attachment style in child, also known as disoriented attachment, is formed when a child is emotionally and physically dependent on someone who is also a source of distress or fears​1​. This attachment style is usually found in people who have experienced physical, emotional or sexual abuse from their caretakers in childhood.

What Is Attachment

Babies are born wired to seek connection and proximity to their primary caregivers for survival. This deeply rooted connection-seeking behavior allows a child to develop an attachment to their attachment figure. Depending on the type of parenting, a child can form one of the following four attachment categories.

  • Secure attachment
  • Avoidant attachment
  • Ambivalent attachment
  • Disorganized attachment

These attachment styles represent how an infant learns to deal with stressful circumstances and negative emotions​2​.

The first three of these infant attachments are considered organized because they are adaptive to their corresponding environments. These attachment strategies are survival instincts that aim to maximize proximity to the attachment figures according to their different parenting styles.

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Disorganized Attachment In Children

Attachment Theory asserts that when a child is frightened, they turn to an attached caretaker for security, comfort and reassurance. However, if the caretaker is also the very source of threat, then the child has an insoluble problem. No consistent, organized strategies can relieve the fears and disorganized attachment issues develop.

Disorganized attachment is an insecure attachment. The child doesn’t view the parent as a secure base because they cannot get their emotional or physical needs met.

In the Strange Situation experiment developed by Mary Ainsworth, the behavior of a disorganized infant is inconsistent with the other attachment styles. The baby may display a variety of odd, unusual, contradictory or conflicted behavior when the parent leaves and returns. These babies’ behaviors share a striking theme of disorganization, a marked contradiction in movement.

Disorganized infants show the following anomalous or disoriented behavior in the Strange Situation.

Contradictory behavior – the baby shows substantial distress during the separation, but displays indifference or conflicting reunion behavior upon the parent’s return.

Misdirected or interrupted behavior – the baby seeks proximity to the stranger instead of the parent after separation.

Stereotypical behavior – the baby is visually stressed or apprehended when the parent is present. The child may repeatedly pull their hair with a dazed expression.

Freezing – the baby is unable to choose between going toward or moving away from the parent. The child may go and stop several times. They show intense attachment behavior followed by sudden freezing or dazed action as signs of dissociation​3​.

Apprehension – the baby shows fear of the parent immediately upon the parent’s return after a brief separation. 

Disorganized Attachment Examples

Disorganized babies exhibit inexplicable, odd, disoriented or overtly conflicted behaviors toward their caregivers.

Here is an example of how a disorganized child reacts in the Strange Situation. The baby might cry loudly while trying to climb into her mother’s lap. While climbing, she might suddenly become silent and freeze for several seconds indicating a sign of dissociation.

In an another example, a disorganized baby might crawl rapidly towards his father upon the parent’s return. But then the child would suddenly stop, turn his head and gaze distantly at the wall with a trance-like, expressionless face, another sign of dissociation. After a short while, the baby might turn his head back, smile and continue approaching his father again.

Causes of Disorganized Attachment in Children

Although various factors contribute to disorganized attachment, one consistent factor is family environment and parent engagement.

The most common cause of disorganized attachment is having an abusive caretaker. Nearly 80% of maltreated infants have disorganized attachment issues​4​.

A disorganized child fears the caretaker and their unpredictable abusive behavior. But at the same time, they have to rely on that person for survival​5​. When the caretaker is both the source of fright and the only haven of safety known to the child, disorganized attachment often result.

These caretakers are usually hostile and self-centered. When the caretaker’s terror is present without resolution, the baby cannot use any organized strategy to deal with the stress.

Parent having a violent partner also impacts attachment formed in the child and results in disorganization.

Another common cause is having a parent struggling with depression, marital discord, the unresolved loss of an attachment figure, or other traumatic experiences in the past​6​.

These otherwise normal parents may display frightening behavior to their infant unintentionally due to past traumas or unresolved loss. They may involuntarily re-experience the fear involved in front of the baby, and frighten the child. These parents are sometimes fearful or withdrawn. Their unpredictable behaviors result in disorganized attachment style formed in the child.

Researchers also found that neurological impairment or pharmacological intervention are related to disorganization if the child has been left alone for an extended period of time.

Characteristics of Disorganized Attachment in Children

Disorganized kids have “fright without solution” with the following characteristics:

  • Do not have an attentional and behavioral strategy for coping with stress​7​.
  • Are more prone to stress in infancy​8​, and heightened adrenocortical levels in distressing situations​9​.
  • Lack regulation skills and control of negative emotions​4​.
  • Show oppositional, aggressive, disrupted and erratic behavior in childhood or adolescent​10​.
  • Have low self-esteem and poor social skills.
  • Are more likely to experience trauma-related disorders such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) symptoms in the school years and dissociative disorder in adolescence​11,12​.
baby cries with unresolved attachment style

Disorganized Attachment in Adults

When early disorganization is followed by traumas inflicted by the caregivers during childhood and adolescence, the new traumatic interactions renew and confirm the internal working models of child themselves and the caregiver, resulting in unresolved or disorganized attachment in adults. These people tend to have unresolved responses to their childhood trauma.

Adults with disorganized attachment can be identified through the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI). A disorganized adult shows marked lapses and incoherence in reasoning when they discuss their life experiences with loss or abuse.

Children of these adults also tend to have infant disorganization attachment. Therefore, disorganized attachment relationship tends to be intergenerational​13​.

Signs of Disorganized Attachment in Adults

Disorganized adults often lack coping skills to deal with stress​14​. They tend to have emotional regulation difficulty. Some are more angry and violent, and have issues connecting with others​15​.

Disorganized adults usually struggle with romantic relationship. They yearn for close relationships and yet have an intense fear of rejection by the romantic partner. This excess fear of abandonment usually results in short and unstable relationship patterns​16​. These adults struggle to form a healthy relationship that lasts.

These adults have contradictory mental states and behavior. Severe attachment disorganization is associated with personality disorder such as Borderline Personality Disorder​17​.

Dissociative Identity Disorder, a severe condition of disconnecting from reality and going into a trace-like state, is also found to be correlated with early disorganized attachment​18​.

Signs of Disorganized Attachment in Parents

The display of anomalous forms of frightened, frightening or dissociative behavior are some of the signs of disorganized attachment in parents.

For example, a hostile parent may suddenly crawl silently and catlike towards her infant simulating “mauling” behavior in an obviously non-playful way. A frightened parent may communicate apprehension to the child when the infant approaches them for protection.

Healing Disorganized Attachment

Child Disorganized Attachment Treatment

Early disorganization does not automatically condemns a person to later disorganized attachment in their adult life.

Corrective attachment experiences and protective factors can prevent an once disorganized infant from developing mental disorders down the line. For example, other attachment figures may provide the child with positive attachment security to develop a healthy attachment.

To reestablish a safe, secure attachment system, it’s possible that the parent can become gradually capable of elaborating traumatic memories, therefore offering a progressively more positive attachment experience to the child.

Adult Disorganized Attachment Treatment

It is possible for disorganized adults to feel safe and develop close, meaningful relationships, and b

When an individual overcomes malevolent childhood experiences, their infant insecure attachment changes over time to become an earned-secure attachment. This person has broken the intergenerational cycle of disorganized attachment​19​.

Earned-secure attachment is possible when there is an alternative support figure​20​. Because it’s hard for disorganized adults to socialize and develop trust with others, it may be difficult for them to seek support in their social circle.

To help these individuals, encourage them to get help from the professionals. Therapy can help them make sense of past traumas and develop healthier ways to cope with stress. Find a therapist who works with a relational approach​21​.


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