What is responsive parenting
Responsive parenting is a parenting style characterized by the parents’ high sensitivity to children’s needs. Responsive parents respond with warm acceptance of the child’s needs, feelings, and interests consistently. They are sensitive and react promptly to children’s signals. Children feel supported as the parents are emotionally attuned to their internal state of mind.
Effects of responsive parenting
Researchers have found that responsive parenting is linked to the positive development of children – physically, mentally, behaviorally, cognitively, and socially.
One plausible explanation is that responsive parenting creates secure attachment in children.
An attachment is the first emotional bond that children form with their caregivers. Attachment Security is determined by the family caregiver’s ability to meet the child’s needs.
Responsive parenting helps children develop a sense of safety, trust, and protection, and become securely attached.
Secure attachment has many benefits, as these positive life experiences of people allow children to generalize their learning to create more positive experiences throughout their lives.
The study of responsiveness has revealed a strong connection between a child’s behavior and responsiveness.
Using a sample of high-risk youths, a Chicago study found that 26% of those with the least responsive mothers and 16% with mothers who were moderately responsive in early childhood developed disruptive behavior disorders by the age of then.
In contrast, none of the children with the most responsive mothers developed such disorders1.
These kids also seemed to be protected from other kids’ behavior issues.
Another study found that children with warm and responsive parents were less likely to be bullied at school. Researchers suggested that children with positive family interactions in early life had better social skills and therefore, did not become the targets of bullying2.
An analysis of a large number of studies found that maternal responsiveness was most often associated with language, cognition, social-emotion, and attention skills development3.
These kids had higher intelligence quotient (IQ) and cognitive growth at four-and-a-half years old.
They showed better school performance by age seven4.
Researchers have found that maternal responsiveness can enhance the growth of infants born with very low birth weight.
It is also associated with a lower rate of childhood obesity in at-risk children5.
In contrast, those who grow up with unresponsive parents tend to suffer from chronic illnesses including hypertension, cardiovascular disease, and early death.
Responsive parents can provide positive family relationships that are essential for mental health.
A child’s social skills, social-emotional skills, self-esteem, and empathy are also enhanced by a positive parent-child relationship in a family setting6,7.
Without adult support, early-life stress can become toxic stress that is detrimental to the mental development for children. Responsive parenting becomes a protective factor that buffers the negative effects of distress on child development.
How to be a responsive parent
Becoming a responsive parent is quite simple. A responsive parent is attuned to their child’s emotions and reacts to their cues promptly in ways that are supportive and developmentally appropriate.
To infants and very young children, that’s all there is to it. Babies need your attentive care.
For older children, however, responsive parenting requires more work.
Clinical and developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind’s four parenting styles identify both authoritative and permissive parents as warm and responsive. But their effects on children are dramatically different8.
The following tips can help those who are new to this form of parenting and want to make the most of it.
Set high standards
Among the four parenting styles, both authoritative parenting and permissive parents show high responsiveness to their children. However, only authoritative parenting produces good child outcomes while permissive parenting results in negative outcomes.
A permissive parenting style differs from an authoritative parenting style in that permissive parents do not set boundaries or enforce rules.
Permissive parents are lax about behavior standards, fail to monitor their children’s activities, and have few expectations of their children.
Parents can only reap the benefits of responsive parenting if they are firm-responsive, not just responsive. In addition to being sensitive and responsive, set rules and adhere to them.
Use inductive discipline
Responsive parents don’t use punishment to force a child into compliance.
Inductive discipline is used to teach children to discuss the reasons behind each decision and request so that they learn how to make sound decisions.
Behaviorally and emotionally responsive
During parent-child interactions, pay attention to not only the child’s behavior but also their emotional wellbeing.
Early and consistent parental responsiveness is important in a child’s development9. Be responsive consistently so that your child perceives the experience as predictable10.
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